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The #1 Mindset Shift You Need for 2019

HOW IS 2019 JUST 3 WEEKS AWAY?!

It blows my mind at how quickly this year has gone by. I remember looking at the calendar in January and thinking, Gosh, there’s still another week of this month left?!?! This year’s going to go by real slow.” And now I’m thinking, “How is there only 3 weeks left until we reign in the new year?!?!?” But here we are nonetheless, firing up the New Year’s Resolutions machine to finally get started on the life we truly desire.

I’m notorious for having New Year’s Resolutions that last for less than I’m willing to admit. This year is going to be different though because I have decided to start the goals I have for 2019 now, and I’m here to encourage you to do the same! I want to put more meaning back into what a New Year’s resolution means to me because it feels like that term is now just a goal you set for the new year…that you forget about 2 weeks in, 4 at most.

How will this time around be different?

First off, it starts with us.

What are you doing right now that is hindering you from getting where you want to be? Where do you want to be 3 weeks from now? 3 Months? 3 Years? Can you visualize it? Can you see it in vivid color?

We want to be excited about life and we can get there…with a clear and concise plan. Too often we fall into the trap of setting no goals, or setting vague, unrealistic ones until we realize that there was never a benchmark to show whether or not we reached that goal.

*Drum roll please*

There is one thing that can change those vague goals into useful, effective ones which leads me to the #1 mindset shift we need now to make 2019 an incredible year….

*Drum roll please!*

CLARITY!

Are you ready to make that change?

I recently listened to Tony Robbins’ audiobook version of, Awaken the Giant Within, and he raised an excellent point: It isn’t the change itself that takes a long time to make – that can be done in an instant, but rather it’s the lead up to the change that takes time when we dwell on it.

Say you’re an avid coffee drinker who is trying to increase the spending money you take for your trip in a month. One way to get that extra cash is to forgo the $5 coffee you buy every morning and make your own. The clarity you have for that long-term reward prevents you from indulging in the instant gratification of spending that extra cash and makes you less inclined to hit snooze 5 times on your alarm clock because you need time to make your coffee just the way you like it (in your warm fuzzy slippers and cozy robe, yumm!).

Because more than making that simple decision you are:

  • Strengthening your brain’s neuropathway responsible for the long-term reward and weakening the one responsible for the instant gratification
  • Learning that the pain of skipping out on immediate pleasure can lead to long-term gain
  • Staying true to your word and believing in your own strength
  • Buyer’s remorse free!

Without clarity, there is no focus and without focus, you get dizzy, overwhelmed, frustrated and eventually give up. So for this time to be different we mustn’t do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. Click here for my last post on pulling yourself out of a rut.

Clarity can be used for the big and little things.

A few weeks ago, I was on a call with some fabulous women from a mentorship group I’m apart of called New Girl on the Block, sharing our goals for the rest of 2018. There was one woman who truly inspired me. She talked about her journey in visualizing the woman she wants to be and has set out to achieve that by making the most of each day with goals such as waking up at 4:45 am.

Now…hold the phone.

You might be saying “Girl! There is no way you’re gettin’ me out my warm cozy bed at that hour!” No worries, you don’t need to wake up that early to be a better version of yourself (though, studies do show that it may be helpful). The point, however, is that her clarity has allowed her to make conscious decisions to get to her future dream self. And she did that by setting clear goals, sticking to them and taking action.

Once you do your part, the universe will help you. Things will fall into place, though by no means the way you wanted or expected them to. We might not know how we’ll get there, but once we know what we’re going after, an answer will come soon enough to get us closer to that end game.

But remember that even with clarity, you must give yourself time for the new habit to stick.

I’ve had a forever goal to wake up between 5-6am every morning, and for weeks that just wasn’t happening, but I was so focused on that goal that I bought a Sunlight alarm clock that brightens up the room 20 minutes before the alarm goes off AND I use the Sleep Cycle app that measures my sleep to wake me up when I’m in my lightest sleep state. I wake up at the desired time about 3 times a week. I used to beat myself up over it however I’ve come to realize that I’m always a work in progress and the trick is to consistently show up to prove to myself that I want to change.

Like the dance teacher says.

When I first learnt how to do a proper spin, my dance teacher told me to focus on a spot on the wall and aim to find that same point every time I whipped my head around. I got a little disoriented in the midst of the spins, but the spot on the wall always directed me to where I needed to go.

We are bound to get swept by the tides that life brings us: detours, emergencies, last minute pop-ups, other people’s plans for us but once you’re clear on your end game, it gets easier to pick yourself up and keep marching on. When you are your best self, you are a gift to others. When you are your best self, you are a gift to others. Click To Tweet.

Give yourself permission to do what’s best for you. Ask yourself 3 questions:

  1. What is one goal I want to accomplish within the next 6 months?
  2. What is one action I can do now to accomplish a portion of that goal before 2019?
  3. Why is that goal important to me?

Now go and get it done!

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